Being a strong woman in this day and age should be a mandatory requirement. And by this I don’t mean the actual literal term of the word. I am referring to the emotional and mental layering of it.
Ever since I was a little girl I grew up knowing that I was a woman in a man’s world. I knew that we were always seen as the “behind every man stands a great woman” kind of lady. We would subtly go unnoticed. We tended, cared, counselled, taught, loved, sacrificed, all in the effort to hopefully one day stand beside the man. But there were some of us that were ready to break that cycle. I’m talking about the single mothers out there. The women who are working three jobs and still taking classes to better educate themselves. The ones who are raising families while having a high powered career. The ones who are entrepreneurs and motivational speakers. The ones who struggle with postpartum depression, who suffer from an eating disorder and managed to come out the other side because of their sheer strength and determination. I am talking about women in the police force, the armed services, nurses, doctor, lawyers, CEO’s, teachers, and senators. All these women had the strength to do what they had to do to make this world a better place for the rest of us. They had the nerve to show us that we can step outside the box.
Women are beautiful inside and out. We come in all different shapes and sizes, with all kinds of personalities and backgrounds. But the most beautiful thing that’s been happening is the strength that is oozing out of us which can be accredited to the women that came before us. Our fore-mothers if you will. We are trying to sore to the highest of heights. And we’re doing all of this while teaching and showing the next generation that this world needs to be on an equal playing field.
Girls need to know that they can be so much more than just a sexy woman who will “service”, feed and eventually have children with a man. Throughout the decades we have pushed for strong, independent, career-driven women who don’t have to flaunt themselves around to get a higher position. That’s why it’s so important that little girls grow up with strong women around them. It’s important that they look to education as an all-star championship game and a career as an MVP trophy. Please let’s teach them to stop trying to find a man to pay for everything. Let’s teach them grace and confidence. Let’s show them how to acquire knowledge on their own and take care of themselves from the inside out. Please let’s talk to them about the importance of their self worth. About how men might take advantage of them. Let’s arm them with the best arsenal that we can so they can be well equipped if anything should come their way. And please, for the love of god, can we teach them that looks and beauty will fade so it is imperative that substance and quality should hold the highest regard. Let’s teach little girls to stop dressing up. Why is that just a girl thing anyway? Why can’t we teach little boys that it’s ok for them to do it too? And instead of body shaming other women, let’s embrace the fact that we are all different.
Just because my body was developed for a purpose other than f*cking millionaires doesn’t mean it’s masculine. I think it’s femininely badass as f*ck, because there’s not a single muscle on my body that isn’t for a purpose. Because I’m not a do-nothing bitch.” Ronda Rousey
Can I just say that Ms. Rousey is the bomb! She is one strong woman who doesn’t take shit from anyone. Hell yes Ronda! We do NOT want to be a do-nothing bitch! If we are going to look up to celebrities, let’s at least look up to the women who are going against the grain. Who are trying to teach us that there is more to this life than that of fame and money. Who are not taking two thousand selfies and calling it a day. Let’s look to the Sheryl Sandberg’s, the Oprah Winfrey’s and the Jada Pinkett Smith’s of this world.
And finally, can we please teach our young ones to stop putting other women down. We should be in this together. If another woman gets a top position in then compliment them. Don’t try and knock them down. Instead say, WE did it. Some of us can be super catty towards our fellow females. Let’s stop with all this. And can I just say, if a man is in between two women, ladies, stop trying to gouge out the eyes of the other women. The common denominator is the man!
With the help of the ladies that came before us, we will eventually know why it is so important for women to be strong and be able to stand on our own two feet. We will know, that even through the most terrifying of hardships, our strength that has already been instilled upon us will help guide us through to the other side.
So here’s to the women who know the meaning of strength. Here’s to the ones who never backed down. To the fighters, the dreamers, the doers and the rebels. You have paved the way for us all. In return, we will show you our admiration and support by guiding the next generation on how it’s supposed to be done. If, with every generation, we teach little girls the fundamentals, then surely we will see the day where women will inevitably become unstoppable.
Peace, Love and and Strong Women