Friendship is super important, wouldn’t you say pandas? Ever since we worked out how to string words together to communicate, it has been a constant yearning to make friends and fit in. Friends mould you from a very young age. The early ones help you with your social skills and sharing . Whereas the older ones formed how you truly saw people. And not to mention taught you a few harsh life lessons on trust, loyalty, humility and compassion. It took me a long time to actually realise that some of those friends that I made throughout the years, never really knew me or got me. Even the close ones. They thought they did, but they really didn’t. And once I realised that I could choose who I wanted in my life and who should be kicked to the curb, that’s when I felt like I could breathe again.
That’s why I chose the above quote, because it’s so true. It’s not a nice feeling when you have people you call friends and they censor you. Or you feel like you can’t really express yourself to the fullest. My close friends (even though they are very few) know that I am one goofy, weird, dorky, oddball wrapped up in a funny hard shell who’s covering the sensitive side from ever being exposed. I like bursting out with odd random noises from time to time. I talk to myself. I might yap about weird things. I might even ask questions like… “What would you do if the day after tomorrow (movie) actually happened?” Or “why can’t we all have puppies at work?”, and then I might ask about the meaning of life and why on earth are men assholes? I do random things. I like swearing, a lot. I choose Star Trek, True Blood and Lost. TV shows which have all ended by the way and I’m super pissed about. But most importantly I like banter. I like when you can be sarcastic and rude to your friends. Obviously, all in good fun. I like it when they laugh along and call me names for saying something rude or sarcastic. I mean If I could have a friend like Barney from ‘How I met Your Mother’ I would be super happy. Oh what games we would play. It would be… wait for it… legen… wait a little longer… DARY! And I have yet to find that. I thought I had but then people grew up to be super serious and all about work and family. I mean you have to let your hair down from time to time. It’s not good to get so stressed out. If you can’t recall when the last time you did something spontaneous is, then something is missing. Some people forget how to have fun and I don’t want that in my life. I know we have to pay bills and be responsible but Jesus let your panties show every once in a while. Be carefree every now and then.
Anyway, the close ones get it and accept it. If I make new friends I introduce them to my weirdness a little at a time. If throughout this process they give a stand off-ish vibe then I will move on and we will stay acquaintances. If they laugh and are equally as silly as I am then I know we will be superfriends.
So don’t forget to choose your friends wisely. Make sure you can be 100% real with them and they with you. Laugh and play pranks on one another. Joke about the time you did something adventurous together. Your friends need to be not only a great support system but also a way of letting off some steam. They will be a very important part of your life. And above all make sure they let you be you. The greatest tragedy in this world is for you not to be authentic. To not be true. Let your goof ball shine bright. It might not be for everyone, but the ones who get it will be right there with you.
Peace, Love and Oddball tendencies